What should single christian women do

Second, more people in the West are unmarried than ever before. We all have heard the statistics: According to Census data , about 44 percent of all Americans over age 18 are single, either never been married, divorced, or widowed.

This is up from about 33 percent in So a half-century ago, one of three people were unmarried. Now it's closer to one out of two. Of course, these two truths—about work and marriage—play out in Christian circles as well. The Census Bureau has not specifically polled U. Christians, so let me offer my own anecdotal observations.

I'm seeing more Christian women assume positions of leadership and influence in the public square, as business professionals, nonprofit CEOs, academics, and artists. And I am also seeing a lot of Christian women stay unmarried into their 30s and beyond. What do these trends have to do with the topic of women and calling? The truth is that for much of Western history, Christian women had a ready-made calling: to oversee their households, and to love others as wives, mothers, and caretakers.

We don't know whether they were fulfilled or felt called to this work; even "fulfillment" and "personal calling" are relatively new ideas. But I believe our unique cultural moment gives single Christian women a way to think differently about their singleness.

To see singleness for a time, or for life, as what allows them to invest deeply into their kingdom work with the time and energy available to them. No, so stop worrying and enjoy life. I recently entered my forties, and I am still single. I do hope to get married someday. But I have also learned that while we wait, we can live life to the fullest and learn a lot along the way.

Here are just a few suggestions:. Once you are married, you are no longer your own; you now have another person to consider in all things. God made us all so different with different desires, different things we like and dislike. The truth is our future husbands may not like those same things. There are things I love that not everyone around me does, and that is not only ok, it is wonderful. It's a gift to learn what we enjoy before we meet our mates.

Travel on your own. I just went to London by myself for six weeks, and it was life-changing. You get to do what only you want to do. It's not selfish; it's an opportunity of a lifetime that not everyone is afforded. You will meet the most interesting people, as it is much easier to strike up a conversation when you are alone. And the truth is you are not alone; it is like a trip with you and Jesus. An added bonus: people will give you free stuff when you are by yourself, probably because they feel sorry for you; but who cares!

I know, I know, you might be rolling your eyes, but this is the best love affair we will ever encounter. No matter the amazing man God has for your future, that man will never give you the love that Jesus has for you. No man on earth can fulfill the deepest desires of your heart. Singleness these days is just weird. Our singleness is not for ourselves.

Look around you and see what the Lord has blessed you with. Is it a tight-knit friend group? An amazing and fulfilling job? A loving family who supports you and is always there for you? Remaining thankful and reminding yourself of what you do have is key.

I have found myself falling into the pit of bitterness when I allow my thoughts and emotions to control me. It also helps me to continue in joy, leaving my bitterness at the cross. If you find yourself wallowing in your singleness, here are a few suggestions:. We are single right now in this moment because God wants us to be. We are single because He has ordained it and it is good.

Do I want to be single for the rest of my life? I want to be a wife, a mother, a grandmother, and a great-grandmother if the Lord wants me to live that long.